The truth is children are mirrors that project parents' deepest wounds. This is in-line with the findings of every major study on parenting._x000D_ _x000D_ Parents don’t neglect or hurt their children because they're evil or lack love, but because they are unconscious of it. We've all inherited legacies of emotional baggage from our own parents. That unconscious emotional garbage, old wounds we often refuse to see, come to the surface when children trigger them. Children know how to push buttons._x000D_ _x000D_ In order to regain a sense of supremacy, parents lash out at children in reactivity. We tell our children “why aren’t you like this?” “why don’t you do that?” “why couldn’t you be more like her?”. Sound familiar? _x000D_ _x000D_ What can be done? How can parenting become conscious? What changes when that occurs? Let's look at science, case studies and our own experiences to answer these questions._x000D_ _x000D_ Parenthood can be an opportunity to grow and to gain a better and deeper understanding of ourselves, but in order to reach that, a key word is needed: CONSCIOUSNESS._x000D_ _x000D_ 每一项以育儿为主的科学调查都发现，孩子能投射出父母心中最深的创伤。_x000D_ _x000D_ 父母忽视或伤害孩子，不是因为他们是恶魔或不爱孩子，而是因为父母们根本没有意识到。_x000D_ 我们从父母那里接过他们的情感包袱，这些无意识的情感垃圾或者旧伤口经常被我们忽视。但孩子们知道触发这些伤口的开关，让它们浮出水面。_x000D_ _x000D_ 为了获得一种优越感，父母通常会对孩子大发雷霆。例如告诉孩子：“你为什么不能成为这样的小孩？”“你为什么不那么做？” “你为什么不能像隔壁家小孩一样？”听起来挺耳熟的对吧？_x000D_ _x000D_ 我们可以做些什么？父母如何才能意识到这样的行为？意识到之后会发生什么？让我们从科学、案例研究以及我们自己经历的角度来回答这些问题吧。_x000D_ _x000D_ 为人父母其实可以是一个成长的机会，它让我们更好、更深入地了解自己，但要实现这一目标，需要一个关键词：意识的觉醒。