When did looking older become something we're supposed to be ashamed of? Why can a new wrinkle, a changing body or the first silver hairs feel strangely alarming, even though they're evidence of something completely ordinary: we've lived long enough to get them? Join Damon, a university professor and poet based in Seattle, for an open and down-to-earth discussion about our complicated relationship with ageing. We'll look at how advertising, social media, beauty standards and modern wellness culture shape the way we see older faces and bodies, and ask what actually happens to us as we age, physically, psychologically and socially. Are we genuinely afraid of getting older, or are we afraid of what we've been taught getting older means?

We'll also get practical. What does the science actually say about ageing skin, and how much can all those creams, powders and expensive treatments really do? When does taking care of ourselves become fighting an impossible battle against time? And perhaps most importantly, can we change the way we experience ageing itself? We'll explore how wrinkles and silver hair might be seen not as defects to erase, but as visible evidence of experience, resilience and a life being lived. This won't be a conversation pretending that getting older is wonderful all the time. There are real losses and difficult changes too. Instead, we'll talk honestly about whether it's possible to care about how we look while also making peace with change, and maybe even learn to genuinely like some of the person we see getting older in the mirror.

从什么时候开始，显老成了一件我们应该感到羞耻的事？为什么新出现的一道皱纹、逐渐变化的身体，或是第一根银发，会让人莫名感到不安？明明它们只是在证明一件再普通不过的事：我们已经生活了足够久，才拥有了这些变化。

欢迎加入 Damon 的讨论。他是一位生活在西雅图的大学教授与诗人，将带领我们以开放、坦诚而不失轻松的方式，聊聊我们与衰老之间复杂的关系。我们会探讨广告、社交媒体、审美标准和当代健康文化，如何影响我们看待年长面孔与身体的方式；也会讨论随着年龄增长，我们的身体、心理和社会关系究竟会发生什么变化。我们真正害怕的是变老本身，还是社会教会我们的那些关于“变老”的含义？

我们也会谈一些更实际的问题：科学对于皮肤老化究竟怎么说？那些面霜、营养粉和昂贵的美容疗程，到底能发挥多大作用？照顾自己，什么时候会变成一场对抗时间、注定无法获胜的战争？更重要的是，我们是否能够改变自己体验衰老的方式？

我们将尝试重新看待皱纹与银发——它们或许不是需要被消除的缺陷，而是经历、韧性与认真生活过的可见证明。这场讨论并不会假装变老永远是一件美好的事，因为衰老也确实伴随着失去与艰难的改变。我们会诚实地聊聊：我们是否可以既在意自己的外表，又逐渐与变化和解，甚至真正开始喜欢镜子里那个慢慢变老的自己。