Leon is a practising psychological therapist and in his "Psychology Of" clubs, he breaks down, in simple terms, the psychology behind our most human decision-making systems. Why are you the way you are? Why are humans like this? Is it you? Your trauma? Your upbringing? Your experiences? How do all those affect how you see the world and act in it?

Tonight, let's take a deep look at the psychology of emotional blackmail!

Have you ever felt guilty, pressured, or emotionally cornered without quite knowing why? Where does emotional blackmail begin? And how can it hide inside love, family, work, or friendship? In this discussion, we’ll unpack what emotional blackmail actually is, beyond the buzzword, and look at how it works on the brain from a psychological point of view. Together, we’ll explore why certain tactics trigger fear, obligation, or guilt so effectively, and why some people are especially sensitive to them.

From there, the conversation opens up in a more nuanced direction. Is emotional blackmail always deliberate manipulation, or can it be an unconscious communication style shaped by personality, attachment, or past experience? Why does it work on some people but fail completely on others? We’ll look at how different personality types use and respond to emotional pressure, when it becomes harmful, and how awareness can create healthier boundaries without turning relationships into power struggles. Smart, inclusive, and deeply human, this session is about understanding behaviour, not judging it, and learning how to relate with more clarity and emotional intelligence.

Leon 是一名正在执业的心理治疗师，在他的 “Psychology Of” 系列活动中，他会用很容易理解的方式，拆解我们最日常、也最人性的决策机制。为什么你会变成现在的你？为什么人类总是这样？这是你的问题，还是创伤、成长环境、过往经历的影响？这些因素又是如何塑造你看世界和做选择的方式的？

今晚，我们会深入聊一聊“情感勒索”的心理机制。

你有没有过这种感觉：明明什么也没答应，却莫名其妙感到内疚、被逼着做选择，或者在情绪上被逼到角落？情感勒索到底是从哪里开始的？它又是如何藏在爱、家庭、工作或友情里的？在这场讨论中，我们会跳出流行词本身，从心理学角度真正弄清楚什么是情感勒索，以及它是如何在大脑层面发挥作用的。我们会一起分析，为什么某些行为特别容易触发恐惧、责任感或内疚感，又为什么有些人对这些套路格外敏感。

接下来，话题会变得更细腻一些：情感勒索一定是有意识的操控吗？还是有时候，它只是由性格、依恋模式或过去经历塑造出来的一种无意识沟通方式？为什么它对某些人特别有效，对另一些人却完全不起作用？我们会看看不同性格的人如何使用、又如何承受情感压力，什么时候它会变得有害，以及如何通过觉察建立更健康的边界，而不是把关系变成权力博弈。这是一场理性、包容、也非常“人”的讨论，重点不在评判，而在理解行为本身，并学会用更清晰、更有情绪智慧的方式去相处。