Can you actually choose who you're attracted to? Have you ever seen someone who's objectively gorgeous and yet you didn't get "the feeling"? How about someone who's objectively not that hot but you do get "the feeling"? And how important is "the feeling"? Do we choose who we date based on a feeling or based on who would be a suitable partner (financially, culturally, family-wise...)? And if we choose them based on the last criteria, is it still a kind of attraction?_x000D_ _x000D_ Why do we have crushes on certain people? Why do we like who we like and not feel the same about others? Does attraction happen at the first meeting? Or can it sneak up on us after we've known somebody for a long time? Is it all physical? Or could it also be mental? Emotional? Financial?_x000D_ _x000D_ The attraction has been studied a lot and yet these questions don't have definitive, provable answers. What do you think about all of this? Let's look at science, history, and culture into our hearts and minds and let's have an awesome discussion about attraction!_x000D_ _x000D_ 你真的能选择你喜欢的人吗？你有没有见过一个人外表很美，但你没有“感觉”?一个客观上没那么性感但你有"感觉"的人怎么样?“感觉”有多重要？我们选择约会对象是基于感觉还是基于谁会是一个合适的伴侣（经济上的，文化上的，家庭上的…）如果我们根据最后一个标准来选择他们，这仍然是一种吸引力吗？_x000D_ _x000D_ 为什么我们会对某些人产生迷恋？为什么我们喜欢自己喜欢的人，而对别人的感觉却不一样？第一次见面就会产生吸引力吗？还是在我们认识某人很久之后，它会悄悄降临到我们身上？都是身体上的吸引力吗？或者也可能是精神上的？是因为情感呢？还是因为经济状况吗？_x000D_ _x000D_ 人们对这种吸引力进行了大量研究，但这些问题都没有明确的、可证明的答案。你怎么看这一切？让我们把科学、历史和文化带入我们的内心和思想，让我们来一场关于吸引力的精彩讨论！