Whose dream are you actually chasing? Who decided what a “successful” life is supposed to look like? Who do you compare yourself to—and why them? Ambition can be an extraordinary force: it pushes us to grow, take risks, build things and become more than we were. But every pursuit has a price. The career that gives you status may take your freedom. The money that gives you security may demand years of stress. The relationship, body, lifestyle or version of yourself you’re working towards may be shaped as much by other people’s expectations as by your own desires. And perhaps the most unsettling question is: if you were chasing the wrong thing, how would you know?

In this session, we’ll examine the psychology behind what we strive for, and the trade-offs we often don’t notice until much later. We’ll talk about comparison, status, money, achievement, sacrifice and the strange phenomenon of reaching a goal only to immediately move the finish line. What has your ambition cost you so far? Which sacrifices are worth making, and which ones quietly hollow out the life you’re trying to improve? And ultimately, how much is enough? And would you recognize “enough” if you finally had it? Expect a thoughtful, revealing discussion that may leave you looking differently not only at what you want, but at why you want it in the first place.

你追逐的到底是谁的梦想？是谁定义了所谓的“成功人生”该长什么样？你拿自己和谁比——为什么偏偏是他们？野心可以是一种巨大的力量：它推动我们成长、冒险、创造，让我们超越原来的自己。但任何追逐都有代价。给你带来地位的工作，可能会夺走你的自由。给你安全感的钱，可能要你用多年的压力来换。你正在努力争取的关系、身材、生活方式，或者那个“更好的自己”，有多少是出于你自己的欲望，又有多少是别人期待的形状？而最让人不安的问题或许是：如果你一直在追错的东西，你该怎么知道？

在这场讨论中，我们会审视我们为之奋斗的东西背后的心理，以及那些我们常常很久以后才意识到的取舍。我们会聊比较、地位、金钱、成就、牺牲，还有那种奇怪的现象——好不容易到达一个目标，却立刻又把终点线往后挪。到目前为止，你的野心让你付出了什么？哪些牺牲值得，哪些又在悄悄掏空你想要改善的生活？最后，多少才算够？当你真的拥有了“够”的时候，你能认出它吗？期待一场让人深思、让你有新的发现的对话——不只是让你重新审视你想要什么，更让你重新审视你为什么想要它。