When does a crush become an obsession? And what actually happens inside our minds when wanting someone starts to take over? What is borderline personality disorder? Join Leon, a psychologist, for a Watch & Talk exploring scenes from the new and hugely popular film Obsession, using its darkly funny take on romance as a starting point for understanding the psychology of obsessive partners. Why can rejection sometimes make desire stronger instead of killing it? Why do people idealise someone they barely know, read enormous meaning into tiny signals, become intensely jealous or behave in ways that seem completely irrational from the outside? The film exaggerates these behaviours for comedy and drama, but beneath the jokes are patterns that can be surprisingly recognisable, from the ordinary crush that goes much too far to genuinely unhealthy fixation.

As we watch, Leon will help us unpack what may be happening underneath these behaviours: attachment, reward and anticipation, fear of abandonment, idealisation, jealousy, emotional regulation and the stories our brains create about other people. We'll also look carefully at borderline personality disorder, what it actually is, how difficulties around relationships and abandonment can sometimes appear within it, and why it's important not to casually diagnose someone simply because they're intense, jealous or obsessive. You don't need to have seen the film or know anything about psychology to join. Expect funny scenes, uncomfortable recognition, plenty of discussion and a chance to look beneath behaviour we casually call “crazy” and ask a much more interesting question: what makes a human mind become so completely fixated on another person?

Let's sit back with good friends in comfy chairs and watch scenes from a film that everybody's talking about right now for very good reason. And, of course, let's have a deep, fun and smart discussion about our mutual cinematic journey!

好感什么时候会变成痴迷？当我们“想要一个人”开始占据主导时，我们的内心到底发生了什么？边缘型人格障碍又是什么？加入心理学家Leon，来一场电影之旅，通过当前热门新片《痴迷》的片段，以它对爱情的黑色幽默演绎为起点，来理解痴迷型伴侣的心理。为什么被拒绝有时候反而会让欲望更强，而不是消失？为什么人们会把一个几乎不认识的人理想化，从细微信号中读出巨大的意义，变得极度嫉妒，或做出从外人看来完全不合理的行为？电影为了喜剧和戏剧效果把这些行为放大了，但在笑话之下，有些模式意外地熟悉——从普通的暗恋走得太远，到真正不健康的执念。

观影过程中，Leon会帮我们拆解这些行为背后可能发生着什么：依恋、奖赏与期待、被抛弃的恐惧、理想化、嫉妒、情绪调节，以及我们的大脑为他人编织的故事。我们也会仔细看边缘型人格障碍——它到底是什么，关系和被抛弃方面的困难有时会怎样出现在其中，以及为什么我们不能随便因为一个人表现得很强烈、很嫉妒或很痴迷就轻率地给ta贴上标签。你不需要看过这部电影，也不需要任何心理学知识。期待有趣的片段、让人“被戳中”的瞬间、大量讨论，以及一个机会——去审视那些我们随口称为“疯了”的行为，并问一个更有趣的问题：一个人的心智是怎么变得对另一个人如此完全执着的？

跟好朋友们窝在舒服的椅子里，一起看一部当下大家都在聊的热门电影——它火得很有道理。当然，还要一起展开一场有深度、有趣又聪明的对话，属于我们的共同观影之旅！