Should a real friend tell you if they think your partner is terrible for you? Should you always take your best friend’s side in an argument, even when you think they’re wrong? And is it okay to end a friendship simply because you’ve grown apart? This sill be a debate about the unwritten rules behind some of the most important relationships in our lives. We’ll argue, in a friendly way, about loyalty, honesty, boundaries, jealousy, effort and when being a good friend means supporting someone, and when it means telling them something they really don’t want to hear.

Let's debate!

As in all of Davie's DisAgree sessions, this isn’t about academic debate techniques, and there are no winners or losers. Everybody will speak, take positions and challenge each other, with supportive feedback from Davie throughout. You’ll practice the skills that make disagreement useful in real life: listening actively, understanding the other person’s perspective, responding directly instead of simply waiting to speak, and making arguments that are logical, persuasive, focused and, when necessary, a little dramatic. No debate experience is needed and all levels are welcome. Come ready to defend your ideas, question a few assumptions, laugh at some uncomfortable friendship dilemmas, and perhaps discover that being a good friend is much more complicated than it sounds.

一个真正的朋友应该告诉你他们觉得你的伴侣对你很糟糕吗？你应该在争论中永远站在好朋友这一边，哪怕你觉得他们是错的吗？仅仅因为渐行渐远就结束一段友谊，这可以吗？这将是一场关于我们生活中最重要的人际关系背后那些不成文规则的辩论。我们会以友好的方式争论忠诚、诚实、边界、嫉妒、付出，以及什么时候做好朋友意味着支持对方，什么时候意味着告诉对方一些他们真的不想听的话。

来辩论吧！

和Davie所有的“不同意”活动一样，这不是学术辩论技巧课，也没有输赢。每个人都会发言、站队、互相挑战，Davie会全程给予支持性反馈。你会练习那些让分歧在现实生活中变得有用的技能：积极倾听、理解对方视角、直接回应而不是光等着自己说话，以及做出有逻辑、有说服力、重点明确，必要时带点戏剧性的论点。不需要辩论经验，欢迎所有水平。准备好捍卫你的观点、质疑一些假设、对一些尴尬的友谊困境发笑，或许还会发现，做个好朋友比听起来复杂得多。