Do we ever truly see the person in front of us? Or are we falling in love with something we’ve imagined? When attraction begins, how much of it is real… and how much is projection, expectation, and story? In this discussion, we’ll explore how art and cinema shape the way we experience relationships; how desire is constructed, how meaning is layered onto people, and why connection so often begins in illusion. Using scenes and ideas inspired by films like In the Mood for Love, Her, and Blue Valentine, we’ll unpack the fragile boundary between what’s real and what we create in our own minds.
Hosted by Anji, a Cannes-nominated director, this session invites you into a space that’s both cinematic and deeply personal. It’s not about film knowledge, it’s about recognition. How we look at others, how we want to be seen, and how easily those two things drift apart. Expect a conversation that moves between screen and self, where visual storytelling becomes a mirror for our own patterns of intimacy, perception, and misreading. Thoughtful, open, and quietly revealing, this is a chance to look a little closer at the stories we tell ourselves when we say we “love” someone.
我们真的能看清眼前这个人的本来模样吗?会不会只是爱上了自己脑补出来的形象?心生好感时,几分是真实的人格魅力,几分又是自我幻想、固有期待和主观滤镜?这场交流将探讨艺术和影视如何影响我们的情感相处模式,好感是如何被潜移默化塑造的,我们又会怎样给他人附加主观标签,为什么很多情感缘分,一开始都源于自我想象。我们会结合《花样年华》《她》《蓝色情人节》等经典影片的镜头与内核,理清现实本真和自我臆想之间模糊的边界。
主讲人 Anji 是戛纳电影节入围导演,这场分享兼具电影氛围感和内心共鸣感。不需要专业电影知识,重在自我共鸣与思考:我们看待他人的眼光、渴望被他人看待的样子,往往很容易产生偏差。整场对话串联影视剧情与现实生活,透过镜头故事,照见自己在人际交往、情感感知和主观臆断里的处事模式。话题温柔有深度,能让人静下心思考,读懂当我们说 “喜欢一个人” 时,背后藏着多少自我编织的内心故事。