Does loving someone mean wanting them all to yourself? Can commitment include the freedom to see other people? And why do some people find security in exclusivity while others feel more comfortable with different arrangements? From monogamy to polyamory, swinging and being “monogamish,” there are many ways people organise love, sex and commitment—and plenty of assumptions about what those choices say about them. What values lie behind each, and what might we misunderstand about relationships different from our own?

Join us for a lively, open-minded discussion exploring these relationship styles, what distinguishes them and why people choose them. Through relatable scenarios and thought-provoking questions, we’ll consider the appeal and challenges of each: security and independence, intimacy and variety, jealousy, trust and the practical limits of time and attention. Along the way, we’ll question common misconceptions and explore what makes an agreement feel fair to everyone involved. No prior knowledge or personal disclosures needed, just curiosity about how people make relationships work.

爱一个人，就意味着想把他完全占为己有吗？承诺能不能也包括可以见别人的自由？为什么有些人在专一里找到安全感，另一些人却对不同的安排更自在？从一夫一妻制，到多角恋、换偶，还有“差不多一夫一妻”，人们组织爱、性和承诺的方式有很多——而对这些选择说明了什么，大家也有很多想当然的假设。每一种背后是什么价值观，我们又可能对跟自己不一样的关系有什么误解？

跟着我们来聊一场热闹、开放的讨论，聊聊这些关系模式、它们之间差在哪，以及人们为什么选它们。通过很能对上的场景和让人想一想的问题，我们会聊每一种的吸引力和挑战：安全和独立、亲密和新鲜感、嫉妒、信任，还有时间和注意力在现实里的限制。过程中，我们会质疑一些常见的误解，也会探讨什么样的约定能让每个 involved 的人都觉得公平。不需要任何前置知识，也不用分享自己的私事，只要对“人们怎么让关系运转起来”有点好奇就行。