Lily, from China, a psychotherapist and licensed counsellor with 4900+ hours of clinical counselling and a master's from Johns Hopkins University in clinical mental health counselling, lived in the US for 11 years. Experienced with clients from diverse cultural backgrounds and focuses on therapy, mentoring, and coaching, she pays extra attention to Asian Americans and international students in practice and research and has expertise in women's and teenagers' mental health and psychological and personal development. Using the humanistic approach, she believes the centrality of human values is our creative and active nature. She loves piano, guitar, staring at horses and meeting people like you!
One of human’s natural talents is sensing the m...
One of human’s natural talents is sensing the motives and feelings of others. But how do we do it? What signs are we looking for? What parts of ourselves should we listen to? Perhaps a more important first question is: How do we fall into mind traps when we assume what we project onto others is actually true? _x000D_
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What's the actual process of the brain when thinking about others’ thoughts and judging their actions?_x000D_
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Projecting is a common mind trap and there's a high chance you've done it. We try to understand other people but we often just understand what we would do or think in their position rather than getting out of ourselves to learn how someone else's mind might work. So how can we know if we're really reading another person or simply projecting our own trauma onto them? How does the brain think clearly and how does it take ineffective shortcuts? To understand the answers to these questions is to see the key to reading the thoughts of those around us. Let's understand our minds better and practice our superpowers!_x000D_
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感知他人的动机和感受是人类的天赋之一。但我们该怎么做呢?我们在寻找什么迹象?我们应该倾听自己的哪一部分?也许更重要的第一个问题是:当我们假设我们投射给别人的东西实际上是真的时,我们是如何陷入思维陷阱的?_x000D_
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在思考他人的想法和判断他人的行为时,大脑的实际过程是什么?_x000D_
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投射是一种常见的思维陷阱,你很有可能已经犯过了。我们试着去理解别人,但我们常常只是理解我们会在他们的位置上做什么或想什么,而不是走出自己去了解别人的想法是如何运作的。那么,我们怎么知道我们是真的在解读另一个人,还是只是把自己的创伤投射到他们身上呢?大脑是如何清晰思考的?它又是如何走无效的捷径的?要理解这些问题的答案,就需要了解解读我们周围人想法的关键。让我们更好地了解我们的思想,练习我们的超能力!