When does helping someone become more confident at dating cross the line into teaching them how to manipulate people? Is a “Pick Up Artist” simply someone who has learned how attraction works, as the term originally suggested, or the calculating, manipulative figure that PUA has come to mean in China? Hosted by Leon, a psychologist and cinephile, this Watch & Talk will use scenes from Hitch to explore the strange world of dating strategies: how we approach someone we like, the techniques we consciously or unconsciously use, and where we draw the line between creating connection, protecting ourselves from rejection and deliberately controlling someone else’s emotions.

Hitch is an incredibly fun, warm and positive movie, but underneath the comedy is a surprising amount of depth that’s easy to miss. As we watch key scenes together, we’ll look beyond Will Smith’s smooth advice and ask what actually makes his methods work, when they fail, and whether any of us are really as “natural” about dating as we like to think. Do we change how we speak, dress and behave to make ourselves more attractive? Is that manipulation, or simply part of being social? Expect plenty of laughs, uncomfortable recognition and smart discussion about attraction, authenticity and the complicated games people play when what they really want might simply be connection.

帮别人在约会中变得更自信，和教别人怎么操控人心，这两条线到底在哪？“PUA”这个说法，到底是像它最初那样指“学会了吸引力是怎么回事的人”，还是在中国语境下已经变成了心机深沉、善于操控的代名词？这场由心理学家兼影迷Leon主持的“观影聊片”，会借助《全民情敌》里的片段，带我们走进约会策略这个奇妙的世界：我们怎么接近喜欢的人、我们会下意识或刻意地使用哪些技巧，以及我们怎么区分“建立联结”“保护自己不被拒绝”和“刻意控制他人情绪”这三者之间的界线。

《全民情敌》是一部特别有趣、温暖又积极的电影，但喜剧表面之下藏着不少容易被忽略的深度。我们一起看几个关键片段的时候，会跳出Will Smith那些丝滑的建议，去追问：他的方法为什么管用、什么时候会翻车，以及我们是不是真的像自己以为的那样“自然而然”地对待约会。我们会为了让自己更有吸引力而改变说话方式、穿着和行为吗？这算是操控，还是只是社交的一部分？现场会有很多笑声、一些让人“被戳中”的瞬间，还有关于吸引力、真实性和那些复杂游戏的聪明讨论——说到底，人们真正想要的可能只是联结而已。