BEGIN:VCALENDAR VERSION:2.0 PRODID:-//PYVOBJECT//NONSGML Version 1//EN BEGIN:VTIMEZONE TZID:Asia/Shanghai BEGIN:STANDARD DTSTART:20000101T000000 RRULE:FREQ=YEARLY;BYMONTH=1 TZNAME:CST TZOFFSETFROM:+0800 TZOFFSETTO:+0800 END:STANDARD END:VTIMEZONE BEGIN:VEVENT UID:20260709T095209Z - 95710@iZuf69e0i0z4ibdboqb33jZ DTSTART;TZID=Asia/Shanghai:20250913T050000 DTEND;TZID=Asia/Shanghai:20250913T070000 CREATED:20260709T095209Z DESCRIPTION:Thinking Of Yourself Vs O thers: When It Goes Wrong 为自己还是为别人着想：什么时候 会出问题？\nIs putting yourself first always the right move? Or c an it cross into selfishness? On the other hand\, is prioritising others a noble strength\, or can it sometimes be a weakness? Studies suggest that over 70% of people view prioritising others’ needs as admirable\, yet ne arly half also admit they fear being taken advantage of when they do so. A t the same time\, research shows that people who consistently put themselv es first are more often perceived as selfish\, even when their intentions are practical or neutral. These contradictions raise deep questions about how we balance self-care and empathy in everyday life._x000D_ _x000D_ In t his discussion\, we’ll explore what happens when the balance tips too fa r in one direction\, when thinking only of ourselves isolates us\, or when focusing only on others leaves us drained and undervalued. We’ll ask wh en putting others first is truly a strength\, when it may look like weakne ss\, and how appearances can often be deceiving. Together\, we’ll consid er how to navigate these choices in friendships\, family\, work\, and soci ety\, and what it really means to find the line between self-prioritizatio n and compassion. This isn’t just about behaviour\, it’s about underst anding the human dynamics that shape trust\, respect\, and connection._x00 0D_ _x000D_ 总是先考虑自己真的对吗？还是有时候会变成 自私？反过来，优先考虑别人是高尚的品质，还是有时 候会显得软弱？有研究说，超过70%的人觉得优先考虑别 人很值得尊敬，但差不多一半的人也承认，他们担心这 样做会被人利用。同时，研究还发现，总是为自己着想 的人更容易被认为是自私的，哪怕他们的初衷只是实际 或中立。这些矛盾让人不禁思考，我们在日常生活中该 怎么平衡自我关怀和对他人的同理心。_x000D_ _x000D_ 这场 讨论，我们会聊聊当这种平衡失控时会发生什么：只为 自己考虑会不会让我们变得孤立？只关注别人会不会让 我们精疲力尽、觉得自己被低估？我们会探讨什么时候 优先考虑别人是真正的优势，什么时候又可能被误解为 软弱，以及外表和内在的差距有多大。我们会一起想想 在朋友、家庭、工作和社会中怎么做出这些选择，以及 在自我优先和同情心之间找到那条线到底意味着什么。 这不只是行为的问题，更是理解塑造信任、尊重和连接 的人性动态。 DTSTAMP:20260709T095209Z LOCATION:China\,\, Shanghai SUMMARY:Thinking Of Yourself Vs Others: When It Goes Wrong 为自己还是 为别人着想：什么时候会出问题？ END:VEVENT END:VCALENDAR