Can you truly stay friends with an ex? Or is that belief shaped by attachment patterns, emotional regulation, and the way we process endings? In this psychology-focused and personal sharing discussion, we’ll explore what it actually means to “transition” a romantic relationship into a platonic one. Is staying friends a sign of secure attachment and maturity, or can it reflect avoidance, ambivalence, or unresolved feelings we haven’t fully acknowledged? And what does cutting someone off say about boundaries, self-protection, and the stories we tell ourselves about healing? And are these answers different for men versus women?

 

We’ll also examine how new relationships affect these dynamics: Is an ex in your life a healthy continuation of shared history, or a psychological obstacle that complicates future intimacy? Research suggests that men and women often handle post-breakup connections differently — why is that, and what does it reveal about social norms, gender roles, and emotional needs? Bring your perspectives and experiences; together we’ll unpack not just whether you can be friends with an ex, but why this question reveals so much about how we love, detach, and grow.

 

和前任还可能继续做朋友吗？还是说这种想法其实是由你的依恋模式、情绪调节方式，以及你怎么处理“结束”所决定的？在这场偏心理学、也鼓励个人分享的讨论里，我们会一起探讨，把一段恋爱关系“转换”为友谊，到底意味着什么。维持朋友关系，是成熟和安全依恋的表现？还是一种回避、摇摆，或者是那些我们没真正面对的情绪？那彻底断联又说明了什么？是界限？是自我保护？还是我们对“疗愈”这件事讲给自己的故事？这些答案，会不会在男女之间也不同？

 

我们也会讨论新关系如何影响这些动态：前任留在你生活里，是健康的共同记忆延续，还是阻碍你建立下一段亲密关系的一种心理负担？研究显示，男女处理分手后的联系方式经常不一样——为什么？背后是社会期待、性别角色，还是不同的情感需求？欢迎你带着你的观点和经历加入，一起聊聊我们为什么会问“能不能和前任做朋友”，以及这个问题到底反射了我们如何去爱、如何放下、以及如何成长。