When it comes to what sort of relationships we’re allowed to have, our environment tells us that it looks like one man + one woman (in) monogamy (while) living together. Having a child = bonus. All over the planet, we feel we need to have all our needs of best friend, sole intimate partner, business associate, therapist, travel companion, nurse, kindergarten teacher, property co-manager and soulmate to be rolled up into one person. At best, only around 15% of the population can say they’re satisfied. Is this the best relationship model there is? Or could it use a reimagining? Let’s ponder thoughts from philosopher Alain de Botton and his work with The School of Life.另类伴侣关系当我们在谈论我们可以“被允许”拥有什么样的伴侣关系时，貌似社会大环境好像在告诉我们这种选择：一个男人+一个女人（在）一夫一妻制（状态下）住在一起，然后有了孩子=他们的奖励其实在全世界范围，我们好像有种观念-把许多角色的需求都投射在了我们唯一的伴侣身上：他们必须是-你最好的朋友、你唯一的亲密伙伴、你的商业伙伴、你的心理导师、你的旅行伴侣、你或你孩子的护理人员、你孩子的幼儿园老师、你们家的物业副经理以及你的灵魂伴侣...只能说，在最合适的关系下，充其量只有15%的人能说他们满意。这是最好的伴侣关系模型吗？还是其实有一些空间提供给我们重新想象？让我们一起看看哲学家阿兰·德·波顿的想法以及他在生命学派的研究。